So yesterday we were having comm. quiz on nonverbal communication. Did you know that there are 8 types of nonverbal communication?!ok let me try and break it down for you... ps those of you who are my classmates-must thank me, im helping you recap!, those of you who are new to this-hope you'll find this useful :)
#1 kinesics-this includes all the body movement/gestures/language eg-hugging your friend to show that you miss/love etc him/her
#2 paralinguistics-this is all sounds that convey meaning eg-giggling/yawning
#3 chronemics-this is regarding time orientation eg-ppl in phuket(comparatively slow-paced life) will see time differently as compared to ppl in hong kong(fast-paced life)
#4 artifact-objects eg-the lady carrying the gorgeous new Marc Jacobs bag will give the impression she's well off$$$
#5 oculesics-this has to do with your eyes, eye contact eg-winking provocatively at some hot guy "wink-wink"
#6 haptics-touch eg-Spongebob puts his arm aorund Patrick's shoulder to console him
#7 proxemics-any kind of space, territorial, spatial arrangement eg-Blair doesn't want to sit with Jenny, so she puts her bag on the empty seat beside her
#8 physical appearance-appearance lor eg-this lady walking down the street in knee high boots, fishnet stockings, micro-mini skirt, tube top, full make up will give you the impression that she obviously doesn't work in an office
I never knew there were so many types of nonverbal communication. However, learning about these made me think about something. Without talking, you could still be sending out many signals etc, we all have basic understanding of that. BUT what if you didn't intend to??? Does it mean that the next time you find yourself in a conversation, you have to pay additional attention to the nonverbal signs you're sending? Wouldn't that be so tiring? Imagine having to be aware of the 8 things mentioned above, while chatting with friends. Maybe not even chatting with them face-to-face, maybe just on MSN.
After giving it some thought, I think I wouldn't be able to keep up with all that. I would just give up after a while. Besides I don't think it's worth the trouble. People who know you well enough will know the true you and won't bother judging you for just every single thing you do. Who cares what other people think of you. To hell with them. As long you you're happy, everyone's happy, then we can all just go live in our happy house and live happily every after!
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Haha you made some interesting observations about paying extra attention whenever we converse with someone. However, I believe learning and identifying all these non verbal communications can be beneficial to us.
For example, in the future when we go out to work, we will meet people/clients. We might be in situations where we are required to be tactful. Not to the extent of making ourselves extremely paranoid. And of course in the case of conversing with friends, we do not need to be so uptight, we regard them as friends because we feel comfortable around them.
Well, I've read what you wrote and these are mentioned in magazines as well as talk shows that touched on topics like effective communication. I've tried paying attention initially and you are right, it is very tiring but if we do make an effort to study their non-verbal communication,be it intentionally or not, we can ensure that we do not do the same mistakes and send the wrong vibes to the other party. Sometimes friends do read your actions rather than words and they may be offended.
i disagree with you that your non-verbal communication does not affect those who are close to you. in my opinion, non verbal comm is important even when speaking with friends. and if we practise sending out good non verbal comms regularly, sooner or later it will become part of our sub conscious mind and we will not even realise we are doing it
Ya. i think life is so tiring. Ow, we know about non-verbal cues, i guess we are more conscious about it. HAHA. that's why, just live in the virtual world. haha. That make life easlier.
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